At Christmas my husband received an early inheritance from his father. He used a big part to pay off his truck and a fairly hefty balance on his Visa. The rest he tucked away. Separate accounts means it's his to do with as he wishes, and yes there are tons of viewpoints on this situation.
He actually decided Thursday he was going to use some of his money for things around the house. I was quite blown away as this is a rare event. All the renos done in the past four years have been paid for by Moi and yes I was more than a bit bitter about that. (yes a whole different set of issues :P)
Anyhoo he decided he was going to buy a microwave/range hood vent thingie combo to fill in the hole in the wall (which is 3 years old) where a plain range hood used to live. The microwave we use currently lives on top of the fridge as we've used it for.............oh.........about 21 years. You heard me. 21 YEARS.
The combo he bought was about $399 (his original microwave was about $700 methinks when their prices were through the roof). That is getting installed today.
Secondly, he bought a new boxspring/mattress combo. No headboard/footoboard thingie yet. We'll have to decide on that later. The current bed we have is an oversize mattress put in an old waterbed frame (you heard me :P). I LOVED my waterbed. I did. I was allll warm in it. When I got pregnant with my first child the husband decided waterbeds were bad for babies and I came home one day to find it gone and this mattress in it's place. That was..........
16 years ago this summer. The mattress is in awful shape and he has a bad back so shopping he went.
Not being a couple to agree on many things, I left the choice pretty much up to him as he would be the one complaining if 'my' choice was not a good one for his back. That will come in, in about a week and that cost him $1250.
Whilst shopping for said bed, his eyes wandered to the flatscreen TVs. He has wanted one forever and wanted me to buy it. I didn't have the cash and refused the 'no money down' trap as recently as last May. I know zero about TVs and electronics so again I left that up to him and only gave a wee bit of input when the stand he wanted to buy to put it on looked like my grandmother's old metal TV trays. Cost of TV and stand (which came with a new HD satellite receiver) was $1600. Our old tv and stand (big solid oak hutch) was bought when we married in 1991 so that is
17 years this summer.
Scary hey?
I have to say I really stayed out of this as he sees it as ' his' money. I let him make the choices. I guess I will have to find $ now for a new sheet/comforter set. It was time to get new sheets.
So his total for the weekend was about $3200. It has gone on his VISA for the weekend, to be paid off in cash when he gets to the brick and mortar bank next week to transfer $ out of that special account of his.
A few thoughts then:
First: be sure the person you marry is $ compatible with you. We are not and yes it is disfunctional in that way and I do know it.
Second: work into your budget money for replacement costs of items. Our biggest purchases, the ones just mentioned and the ones I made last year, were to replace very old predecessors. I really wish I had been saving regularly over the years so that a new item wouldn't be such a huge hardship as the purchases I made last year were.
Ok today is installing of hood/microwave so off I go to clean. Have a great day!